No, There is Too Much. Let Me Sum Up.

You are the parent in charge of the first grade Valentine party. Teacher gives you a list of the parents who signed up to help, as well as the names and numbers of the two allergic children's parents, so that you can, presumably, coordinate safe food for the party.

You :

A. Call the allergic children's mothers and ask them for some safe food suggestions.

B. Call the allergic children's mothers, tell them the foods the other parents are providing and ask if these items are safe.

C. Call the allergic children's mothers, tell them the foods the other parents are providing and ask them to provide comparable allergen-free treats.

D. Some combination of A and/or B and/or C.

E. Call the allergic children's mothers and leave messages saying you have NO IDEA what the parents will be bringing to the party you are coordinating, but Teacher mentioned that the allergic children have treats in the freezer that they use for birthdays, so they can just eat those.


You are a mother of one of the allergic children. You hear this message and:

A. Mentally compose a return phone call that you then decide not to place, deciding no good can come of it.

B. Explain the situation to your child, who is quite confused, as all of the holiday school parties so far have had at least one safe treat she can eat.

C. Come up with a plan with your child. You will send an extra treat (fruit snacks) for your child to eat in addition to a cupcake or cookie from the freezer. (Hey, it's Valentine's Day.) You will also write a note to teacher explaining this. If your child knows that one or more of the party foods are safe, she will tell Teacher, and/or ask Teacher to call you and confirm.

D. Wonder if this is the right way to handle things and/or if you are overly sensitive.

E. All of the above.